Sunday, October 24, 2010

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Have you ever thought that even the tiniest of problems between the age of 18-28 feels like they are the greatest problems you’ll ever face in life?? Obvious, isn’t it, for before 18, our parents take care of all our problems and, after 30, life would have thrown us into so many problems that any problem seems like it can be handled without creating much fuss .But problems between 18-28 seem the most  intriguing ones. For some of us, it is more evident and for others, they are like the undercurrents in the sea, though not visible, still making their presence felt strongly.
Just thinking of it, it all begins in college itself.  Keeping up with ever changing fashion trends, falling in love, heart breaks, ups and downs in friendships, defining relationships, financial troubles (well, low pocket money can be defined as financial problem at that age right?), doing well in academics, trying to catch the attention of that handsome hunk or the pretty girl whose one look feels like it will change whole of your life ..all these seem like mind boggling problems at that age.
Then comes the age of choosing a career path, finding the so called “right job”.  Tests, interviews and then choosing between so many options that all crop up at the same time. Finally after managing to choose the right job, you need to deal with the work life pressures, be it the clientele pressures, professional jealousy or the pressure of doing the job assigned consistently well.

Simultaneously, at home, starts the “marriage” topic. This I tell you is a real crisis. Firstly, if you are in love and the guy or a girl doesn’t match your parents’ choice, then you are doomed till it settles alright. “Emotional atyachar” is what will start at home. Mums crying, dads giving you long lectures, siblings looking at you like you have committed a crime that requires nothing less than a life term sentence. Ooofff!!!Thankfully I don’t belong to this category.
Secondly, if you don’t fall into the first category, then it is the usual bickerings at home as to how the guy should be. Well, I belong to this category so I will settle for the term “guy”:). It is such a problem. So many possibilities here. You like the guy but your parents don’t like him, you don’t like the guy but he and his parents are behind you, both you and the guy like each other but something else doesn’t work out. Everything needs to be matched- horoscopes, compatibility, height, weight, colour and God knows what all. On top of all this, people tend to ask your parents all the time “Oh, so you still haven’t found a son-in-law?” Then starts the emotional atyachar followed by a lecture on the compromises you need to make and settle down with someone before the time runs out. Hopeless situation!! You can’t blame your parents nor can you settle in for someone you might not like. You leave it all to God thinking He will get you out of trouble. And he surely will but might take time. Till then, it is a constant bickering at home.
So crisis it is right?? Well, not really I guess. It is all a part of life and let me tell you, I love facing my quarter life crisis…feels thrilling, keeps life happening though sometimes I do feel like running away from all these.But I am sure 50 years down the line when I would look back at all the problems or “so called problems” between 18-28, I would surely laugh at all of them and think what an idiot I must have been at that time and if I could have handled them differently, maybe in a more dignified way. But now at 24, I would term them nothing but “quarter life crisis”.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

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Love stories…you love them, hate them but you just can’t ignore them…

Let me confess here that am a big big big fan of love stories and a bigger fan of “love” itself. I have no idea how it is being in love  though every crush I have had on any guy felt like it must be love, but, when the crush faded, so did the feeling of love and I know the feeling of love doesn’t fade when it is “actual” love. I still love my parents, bro, Puchhu no matter how many differences I might have with them (Puchhu excluded) and this is the scale I use to measure love because love, like many other things, is a relative term. The kind of love might be different but the baseline feeling behind any kind of love is the same, isn’t it?
Anyway, let me return to the actual topic…Love stories. I don’t know when I first read the book Erich Segal’s 'Love Story' ; I guess it was when I was in my PU and it was then that I fell in love with love itself. I don’t know if it was the beauty of the story or something else but that was the start of my inclination towards love and love stories.
'Pride and Prejudice' made the feeling grow stronger. I am such a big fan of the characters in the book that I always thought that I’d be the happiest if my guy would be like Darcy. So as the years passed by, my idea of love kept changing and also the way I related to love stories.
I still remember religiously following a daily soap which had love as the main theme. I felt happy whenever the hero met the heroine and everything was running smooth in their lives and I cried every time they had to breakup or something wrong happened in their lives. I was so involved that it hurt to see the sad endings of love stories. For me, love stories needed to end happily……always. This was a few years ago.
But, now, it has all changed. I still love “love stories”. I still love the idea that someone somewhere will love me the same way like I will love him and he will be as romantic as Sharukh Khan in any of his movies and as practical and caring as Darcy. I still love the fact that that one person will be exclusively mine and I will be exclusively his. So what has changed?
Hmmm…love plus marriage or vice versa feels a priority now. To just think of the fact, that with an exclusive person to care for, you also get an extra set of parents, siblings, is a great feeling; maybe much more to me since am a single child and I have missed having people around, not much, but I have, and being a people’s person, I love being surrounded by near and dear ones. So cheers to the institution of marriage, to love and to love stories.
Waiting eagerly to find the love of my life…will be nice if he comes loaded with intelligence, focus in life and a great attitude towards life itself. Amen...

Friday, October 1, 2010

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“Change is constant” has been the theme for the week gone by. But if I look at the deeper meaning of the phrase, it strikes me that it has been the theme of my life like most of you.
From being a small girl who used to hold her dad’s finger and go for a walk every evening to being a lady who is anticipating marriage, life has changed a lot. Some changes have been positive and some, if not negative, have changed the way I look at certain things. I guess it has been the same with you all.
Change teaches you to be flexible, to be ready to face challenges that life has in store and to forget the past and live in the present. Basically, change teaches you that your plans can go haywire anytime:)
Well, after writing this post, I feel I need to “change” the topics I choose..!!

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